Are you annoyed with all the talk of emotional affairs, like it is such a bad thing? Are you involved in an emotional affair, and enjoying every moment of it? Do you purr with joy when your "friend" pours attention on you? ArabianDate.com Probably you feel light-years away from the real world and all your normal problems and issues...but what of the future?
Perhaps you imagine a wonderful web
of intrigue ending in you both riding off into the sunset together?
Is that really likely?
Unfortunately, no. Men are
definitely built differently to we women on an emotional level. While men have
emotions and some of them are not afraid to share them, sex remains a primary
objective in a man's life.
In response to women wanting more
"sensitive" men, men have become more sensitive. Well more
accurately, they know it will improve their chances of getting sex if the
appear to be more sensitive. RussianBrides Very
often, men who are involved in emotional affairs are the sort that know how to
play the long game. While they appear understanding, kind, considerate, and all
those other things they know we like to see, actually they are waiting for the
moment we women say - ok, I really like you, lets take it to a physical level.
Men Like A Challenge
Remember Don Juan? Casanova? These
guys knew the value of the long game. Oh the endless hours of chatting, just
talking, listening, trying to remember the things we speak of so that we give
them brownie points for remembering....and ultimately then we give Datinggroup in and let them have sex! That is when they have won,
got what they wanted! Another notch on the bedpost.
Maybe you are convinced your
emotional affair is not like that. Maybe it is him that doesn't want to take it
physical. This could be because he doesn't want the guilt, especially if he is
married. But what else is in it for him? He could be a personality type -
Rescuer.
Superman?
Rescuers, as the name suggests,
love to rescue women. That makes them feel like a hero. They love to sweep into
a situation like superman, pull the damsel in distress out of the horrible
marriage, the wicked husband shaking his fist as superman flies off with you in
his arms...
The problem with rescuers is they
need someone to rescue. In transactional analysis, this person is called a
Victim - someone who gives up power easily. It is part of an emotional game. If
victims are not victim enough, rescuers can become persecutors, in order to
back to the rescuer role. Be aware that you could be entering into a
psychological game that will never be part of a healthy relationship.
Happy Relationships
Remember when you were happily
married? When your husband was the best thing since sliced bread and you wanted
nothing more than to be with him forever? Cast your mind back to dating him,
the fun and the laughter...
You can get your relationship back
to that, with some honesty and some simple changes. The less embroiled in the
affair you are, the easier it is to get out of.
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